The myth of the mystical Phoenix is that when it dies it turns to ashes, those ashes then ignite into a golden flame of rebirth, and the Phoenix lives on, renewed.
Traveling opens the heart, mind, body, and soul through all of its wanderings. Traveling creates the ashes from which the traveler is reborn, and love lights the fire.

I am a backpacker, a social worker, a grateful receiver, an eternal empathizer, a seed growing, an ear listening, a child learning, a sister sharing, an American evolving, a therapist reflecting, a daughter caring, an embrace holding tightly, a friend to all - I am a Traveling Phoenix, experiencing the world that sets my soul on fire with love. Thanks for joining me.

Tuesday, February 3, 2015

Let Go and Miracles Follow

I believe that there are signs from God, and miracles every day. Some stand-out in my mind because I feel their significance in the moment. One of the most challenging things in my journey has been to let go of my need to control, ask questions, get answers, move forward in my time and my motion. The flow is Gods flow, and the hardest part is not only not having any say or control in the matter, but also not having any idea where the flow goes. I just have to blindly trust that the flow goes to goodness and it will be perfect for me. Holy crap what a hard kind of trust to have in a belief. Blind faith, is what its called. Not because faith is blind, but because people who have blind faith can walk with their eyes closed and know that no matter how rocky it is they will never trip. Sure-ism. That's what blind faith is, and its way more powerful than optimism. Imagine that. I'm not optimistic that everything has goodness, that love is the most powerful thing in the world, that I can get exactly what I want and need in this life just by being a good and loving person. No... I'm not optimistic, I'm sure. I have 100% faith in it. Nothing is impossible, but sometimes it feels impossible to keep the eyes on the prize, on the possible end result, on the Glory, and the dawn. To slowly, but surely, lock my eyes closed and walk forward with confidence in my feet and a smile on my face.

The other day I was in Nha Trang, VietNam. It's a great island and beach town, and I meant to take full advantage of it to rest, restore, and swim. While there I had spoken with some people in passing, and the vibe was really negative. They said something about me losing my camera or having it stolen, and I said how terrible that would be since it has all of my 3,000 photo and video memories from the last 6 months. For some reason, that thought of losing my camera and how terrible it would be remained distantly in the back of my head. I brushed off the feeling this conversation gave me and I moved on.

I always recognize when I say that something is horrible or terrible, and I always try to eliminate those words from my language. I remember, God says "Did you say terrible? You haven't seen anything yet!" Just the same as he says "Amazing? You haven't seen anything yet!"

Wording things positively, no matter how "unrealistic" people might call me, is my main goal. You can blow all of your notions of "unrealism" out of your mind. That is what makes you, you, and me, me. I know there is no such thing as "realism" or "unrealism" or being either of those things. Realism is a cloaked dagger to the heart of positive thinking. I tell myself, no matter what your reasoning mind might say, have faith in God, and believe blindly in His goodness. Now everything is beautiful and perfect. Realism can go find someone else to bother. My thinking is that, I can be realistic all I want, but as soon as being realistic conflicts with being positive, thats when I know that reason is steering me wrong.

Not but a few days after this brief and negative encounter, some Dutch friends I made and I took a boat tour called the Funky Monkey tour. Complete with hysterical live music, suntanning, island beach, snorkeling, beer, and a buffet seafood lunch. All for $10. Perfect day. The sun was the strongest it had been, and I was loving every second of it. When it came time to go snorkeling, I grabbed my trusty waterproof camera, wrapped the cord around my wrist and jumped in the water with the other girls. We swam away from the boat, adapting to the rush of cold turning to warm, while the guys working on the boat threw us all life rings so we could float around if we wanted. I didn't want one because I prefer to swim, but I caught it and was wrapping it around my arm when I noticed that the camera attached to the cord on my wrist was gone. The durable cord I had used for 6 months on land, sea, air, and all kinds of adventure travel, had snapped in the ocean.

Oh. My. God. This can't be real. My world travel adventure alone, where all I have are my memories, what I take with me, and no way to share with anyone else, and all of those things I might have forgotten but captured anyway. All of the videos of dancing with strangers, speeches from tour guides, and weird cultural experiences. All gone. No longer tangible. This can't be real.

I looked around in the water with a horrified urgency on my face and in my movement. The water was not clear. It was 10ft deep and I could swim to the bottom, but because I couldn't see in front of me my lungs panicked at the possibility of not resurfacing, and I couldn't swim too deep because of it. I lost it. I lost it. It's gone.

I told the guy on the boat, and asked him to help me look for it. I don't give up without a fight. There were scuba divers present because some people paid extra for it. I asked the tour guide if a scuba diver could look for it. He said yes, but that if they find the camera I have to pay them. If you find it, I will give you everything in my wallet I will be so happy. It will be better than paying for a new camera! And those photos and videos are literally priceless to me.

It took 10 minutes for the diver to be ready, and I felt myself asking, is he coming, is he coming, we only have 45 minutes here. I had a foot tapping, impatient sense of urgency.

Eventually the diver was ready and I pointed him in the direction I was swimming. There was no current at the time, aside from surface boats, so I had hope he would find it. My heart was entirely engulfed in the camera, I was trying to control the situation, the panic, the finding of it. I was trying to make it happen. I was like a neurotic mom with five kids at Disney World. "Okay now everyone form a single file line, hold hands! and don't make any faces in the picture."
Oh yeah, pictures. Pictures I won't be able to take wit my waterproof camera that won't be able to go under water anymore.
I took hold of myself when I realized what danger my actions and words were ensuing because of my effort to force the situation. I have to let go of this, it's not the end of the world, what is meant to happen will happen. After this thought, one of the girls I traveled with came up to me and said something about, oh poor me, I hope they find it.

It's the fucking ocean. I've been on the ocean my whole life. Lost thousands of things, found none of them.

I ignored the negativity, I knew that I had to reverse what I had said and done to force my will onto this situation. I think he'll find it. It's easy to look for things with scuba gear, theres no current, and it's only 10 ft deep. I'd find it myself if I had scuba gear but they said that I'd have to pay for it. I'm not worried. I'm actually pretty sure they'll find it. All of the factors say yes. Surism is stronger than optimism.

I kept saying stuff like that to myself. 20 minutes passed, and no such luck. The diver went down before I could describe the camera or the location. The diver was circling the whole area, but not where I told him to. All of these factors - I want to fix this. I need to talk to him but he's below the water. I can't do anything. I have to just sit. I realized that what I needed to do was swim. Release the stress and literally remove myself from the situation and let go of my control and my need. I was on a tour, and I love to swim, I shouldn't waist this time worrying and not enjoying. It's out of my hands. Exploring the water while I wait couldn't hurt anything.

I swam far and fast until the boat was distant from my sight and I was almost to shore where the reef could be see from a surface level. I was thinking the whole time, its not the end of the world. I said a prayer out loud if I am meant to have it then it will come back to me, if I am not meant to have it then I don't want it. God returns to me what is mine or replaces it with something better. I said this over and over. Until finally I was used to the idea. I could get a new camera. I can let go of these photos and videos. I have my memory. I have other pictures and things that I've kept. I have my diary, my heart, and my experiences. It's okay. What's meant to happen will happen. Que sera sera.

I looked down in my breast stroke and saw the ocean bottom. I saw that it was jagged and rocky, and it occurred to me, the diver was looking all around the area as if there was a current, but there is no current and the bottom is rocky. My camera is there. He'll find it. I became sure of it. Absolute blind faith. I have no room for doubt because the time for hope is now, and the time for mourning is later or never. Now determines that. Suddenly I had a really strange feeling that might sound a little crazy. I felt like a shark was swimming up to me. I was alone and my bodily reflex jerked around to look into the water. Nothing. I knew there was no shark but I felt like I was being chased, I felt like I had to get out of there and swim back to the boat. 

I returned to the boat just as a new diver was going in to look for my camera. The first diver was tired and didn't find anything. I pointed directly where I landed in the water and said right there. Then I watched the diver go under, because I thought it looked cool and I wanted to see if I could remotely see the bottom. I had no concerns. I had hope, but not grasping onto to it. I was just hanging out and enjoying the day. That's when it happened. ARISEEEEEEEEE SCUBAAA SAINT!! Through the foggy water I saw a flash of the bright orange from my camera and up rises the scuba diver having rescued it from the rocky depths. 

Holy crap! This is a miracle! This is a miracle! I took the camera and thanked them. I wanted to hug them or kiss them but both of the scuba divers disappeared to undress from their swim gear. After I established that the camera still worked just fine (after 30 minutes under water!!), I put it away and the tour guide told me what I had to pay. Something like 500,000VND At least 5 days of food for me. But I remembered what I said and I said it several times. I told the tour guide I wanted to thank the divers. They came and found me, and when they did I emptied my wallet without counting it. I complain too much about money. I'm too desperate for it to maintain my appropriate budget, to complete this journey in the time and manner I want. This was one of many lessons God was giving me. To let go. To trust that I will be provided for. To not give power to money, or my plan - the power is completely in the hands of God. Let go and let God, that's what that is. Let go of my own plan for life, and let God do His work. I can just sit back and be in awe of the miracles that occur and the goodness that finds me.

Absolutely perfect day.

The Dos and Donts of Viet Nam

 I first want to say Come On to Viet Nam for helping me encounter some amazing people and unforgetable experiences. "come on" means "thank you" in Vietnamese, which depicts exactly what the attitude of the last month has been. Feeling tired? Come on! Feeling unsure of your next move? Come on! Vietnam gave me a severe case of the COMOs (Come On Or Miss Out). So I went along, no fear, no doubt, only spontaneity and adventure. Try doing that in every day life. The amount of opportunities to "go with the flow" or "come on!" Are enough for anyone to find themselves using excuses. I think of how many excuses I must have in my daily life if I don't consciously get over myself, and go with what I feel. Sometimes my body is telling me "no" but my mind, my mind is telling me yes! I classify listening to my body as good health, not an excuse. Since I've been traveling, the way I care for my body, and my every day decisions directly manifest in my health. Good attitude good health. Negative attitude? Get ready for the flu, diahhrea or some obscure thing that never normally happens, like a skin rash, fainting, food poisoning, worms, bladder infection or even just crampy legs or an achy hip. If I don't go with the flow and listen to my body, then karma ensues. When Vietnam told me to come on! My response was why not? And sometimes Vietnam would retort back, I'm not asking, I'm telling.

This has been my life for the last month.

 There are so many backpackers traveling through Viet Nam, North to South or South to North, usually starting in either Hanoi (in the north) or Ho Chi Minh City/Saigon (in the south). I find myself taking most of my advice and suggestions from fellow travelers, and sharing the information I learned in return. Sometimes I would take advice, and just go with it - even if I knew nothing about what I was going with. My last month in Viet Nam has given me a fair amount of knowledge about backpacking in Southeast Asia, booking, eating, friendships, nightclubs, tours, culture, and the overall does and donts of the Southeast Asian travel hustle.

The same same,  but different come on attitude all over Asia.

Here's a brief low down on the places I visited this month:

Hanoi - Capital of the north, famous for water puppet shows, and eating snake hearts.
Ha Long Bay - UNESCO World Heritage Site of many islands and caves that make the bay appear as though it is a sinking jungle. (best to travel to from Ninh Binh, Hanoi, or Haiphong).
Dong Hoi - quaint seaside town where ships are built (and a wayward point to get to Phong Nha National Park). 
Phong Nha National Park - UNESCO World Heritage Site consisting of the second largest dry cave in the world, as well as Paradise Cave (one of the tallest enclaves), and Dark Cave (completely consisting of mud and including zipline, and kayaking).
Hue - Seaside town consisting of the ancient UNESCO World Heritage Site Citadel - the Vietnamese version of the Forbidden City of temples and pagodas.
My Son - UNESCO World Heritage Site of ancient Chang tribal Hindi ruins and temples. Built completely without any water - and still a mystery as to how this was accomplished.
Hoi An - Seaside town famous for their handmade-to-order clothes and tailors, a nice beach, and floating markets.
Da Nang - A large westernized seaside city in between Hue and Hoi An.
Nha Trang - One of my favorite places. It is a fairly large westernized city on the beach, perfect for water sports, relaxing, and absolutely fantastic local food as well as backpacker parties. 
Da Lat - A beautiful mountain city known for its trekking, canyoning, and even ostrich riding.
Saigon - The capital of the south. No Vietnamese call it Ho Chi Minh City - that was the name it was given by the Americans, and its "official" name - Saigon seems to work better. This city is absolutely chaotic, and the roads are dangerously filled with motorbikes, and fantastic street food. Right up there with Hanoi and Nha Trang for deliciousness. 

After going to all of these places and having countless COMOs, I can say without a doubt that at least 80% of an experience is all about the people.Whether its for a day, a week, a month, or a moment - its about who I am and who they are and how the Universe brings us together.

 The only place in the last 6 months that I did not like was Vienna, Austria. And why? Because I was sick, and could only manage to stay in the city for 3 hours. More time, and no sickness might have meant time to fall in love with the city, to have the energy to explore, and interact. Some of my favorite places (a frequently asked question that I'm beginning to form an answer to) have been Ireland, Norway, Switzerland, Morocco, Turkey, Greece, and Nepal. And why? Because in all of these places I made absolutely amazing friends whether they were travelers, locals, friends of friends, family of friends, or some little old gleaming lady selling rope bracelets on the sidewalk. I had positive encounters within the environment every day. I'm telling you this, because my Does and Don'ts have a lot to do with my experience, the people I met, the environment I was in, combined with what I bring to the table. Ask someone, who isn't me, about these same places and their experience in Vietnam, and they'd say differently. 

Here are some simple Does and Don'ts, and a few anecdotes, from my travels north to south in Vietnam. Many of the cities in Vietnam were same same... But different. A favorite Southeast Asian phrase which I've adopted since I began in Nepal almost 3 months ago. It basically means - its almost the same and thats good enough. Sometimes the places were same same, sometimes they were different, and sometimes it was same same... but different. Most of what made it different was the fantastic people, the locals I met, the guys and girls I met traveling around, the loving and fantastic staff in the places I stayed. Same same, because it was all fantastic and full of adventure... But different with different places, people, and authentic adventures to be had.
Lets starts at the very beginning, its a very good place to start.

Since I was in Hanoi for 9 days, waiting to receive my passport back from the Indian Embassy after applying for my visa there, I had the opportunity to travel all about the city and experience as much as I could. All of my days were spent with new people, eating, resting, and doing errands. It wasn't until my last few days that I decided I should get out and see some recommended cultural sites before I moved on.

My first museum stop was the Women's Museum.

The Women's Museum Was downright badass. This museum was so enlightening in terms of learning about beginnings and the infinite girl power that supports Vietnamese culture. It captured most of the senses - sight and sound with videos and descriptions of daily life, as well as the opportunity to see how food is prepared, and what traditional dress and spiritual beliefs are founded in the name of girlpower! I watched 20 minutes of a video about the women who sell street food in Hanoi. Now, most tourists might say that the bargaining, the nagging to buy, and the constant having to walk away, ignore, or say "no thank you" to someone selling something on the street can grow irritating. Not me, because I like making friends - but some people.

The video in the museum showed the women on the street selling useless trinkets, donuts, corn, sticks of BBQ, and almost always wearing the traditional Vietnamese conical hat and a cloth face-mask. This was my experience in Hanoi too. However, the video went from this surface understanding of Vietnamese women, to the true struggle of everyday life. Most of them travel from outside of the main city, and work and live in the city for two weeks at a time - leaving their children and family behind, in order to sell on the street and eventually return home with an award winning 500,000VND ($23). Selling on the street is illegal so they are chased off by police frequently. Sadly, I've witnessed, on countless occasions, the sort of disrespect the women receive from foreigners who have grown far beyond irritated with the vendors. I felt so moved by the information about these women who are working 16 hour days in the hot sun, dealing with disrespect and being chased off, just to put food on the table for their family - families they had to leave in order to achieve their goal.

The other museum we went to was the local prison. It was only 20,000VND to get into the prison, and although it's not all fancy lighting and exciting exhibits like the Women’s museum, I liked it because it gave me a visualization of what the people - Vietnamese, political prisoners, French, and Americans - suffered through during war-times. All about the French war in Vietnam for independence, and eventually what the Vietnamese call the "American War," and the "Indochina" war.

There is propaganda in every system of education, and it was apparent the propaganda was trying to show how the Vietnamese treated the American political prisoners so well. Whereas, no matter what you learn in school in the States, there are movies like Platoon, Good Morning Vietnam (a favorite phrase here in VN), Full Metal Jacket, Born on the 4th of July,  and Deer Hunter that speaks to the hardships of Americans and Vietnamese during the war. Particularly the first mentioned, which depicts the pain that Americans caused for the locals. I am into the human experience, and empathy, so prison tours are usually really interesting and solemn to me. I wont even get too far into the unforgettable emotional experience I had at the War Remnants Museum in Saigon. The building was devoted to the history of oppression in Vietnam due to the French and Americans. The first floor was all about Agent Orange and the struggle with chemically induced diseases - an inherent struggle, which has not yet resulted in justice, care, or cure. I'm so happy that my journey took me here. Having already gone through the month falling in love with Vietnam, this museum served as the icing and the cherry. I can understand the struggle, I can feel for these people because I've come to know them and love them. The museum was heart breaking with the visualization of war, disease, and suffrage. There was a nauseating section describing the abuse of the disabled, and infant deaths due to Agent Orange - including an area of incubated, dead, premature babies. Jaw drop, then tears. Followed by horror that this was put in a museum. After that, and reading a sincerely heartbreaking letter written to President Barrack Obama, by a young Vietnamese girl. She begs him to love her, to bring justice to the chemical companies that made napalms, Agent Orange, and other chemical weapons that broke the foundations of human and international rules of warfare. Not only that, of course, the Vietnamese people simply want to be loved and respected in many ways. I have seen firsthand that in a lot of places in The United States, Vietnam Veterans have not yet experienced their own justice or appropriate level of care. The Vietnamese want at least that. To be cared for like the Americans have been cared for. To be apologized to by way of exemplary action. To save-face from the shame of the U.S Government? I don't think it's necessarily to right a wrong anymore. The Vietnamese people seem to understand just as well as I do, that we can't right a wrong by undoing. We can, however, show exemplary love doing what is kind, endearing, and open - right now. Maybe to some people that means righting a wrong. My love for the Vietnamese people is overflowing. It was the same aw of the Vietnamese drive, speed, and intellect used during the war in Viet Nam. On my CuChi Tunnels tour in Saigon, I spoke with my guide, a Vietnam Veteran, and he told me stories about working with the Americans, the torture devices, the tunnel conditions used to survive the deserted and bombed earth's surface. He was passionate, and out to teach me, the only American on the tour, a lesson in what really went on in Vietnam. It was amazing to experience more American and Vietnamese war remnants for a visual understanding of what veterans went through.



I love people who are passionate to teach, because I am open to learn.

Also I got to fire an M30 machine gun off the back of a 1960s Vietnamese ATV. 

Now let me tell you about one of the best things about Vietnam - the food.

Here is a brief Vietnamese Food Breakdown According to Me
Skip this part if you’re not interested in cooking or learning about Vietnamese traditional foods. These are classic, filling, and cheap dishes that are a must-try. Rice (in a dozen different ways), noodles (in a dozen different ways), green leaf vegetables, spring rolls, soy sauce, and hot chilies are the cornerstone of Vietnamese food. Some of the Vietnamese words I see a lot have led me to the best food I’ve ever eaten for less than $1.
Bánh - is any sort of rice cake you can think of – usually mushrooms, veggies, or pork - steamed and topped with things like chives, onions, accompanied by a sauce that I don't know the name of, but is a must-eat. 
Bún – is the word for Vermicelli. There is the classic Bún chả, which is rice Vermicelli, but Vermicelli is also frequently in the soups.
Phở Bở (Beef Phở) 
Gỏi cuốn - spring rolls, any way you want it that’s the way you eat it – or order some simple meat and veggies with rice paper, and make them yourself at the table.
Phở - is one type of noodle soup. Usually the difference between the names of the noodle soups is solely based on the type of meat and the thickness of the noodle. There are so many different forms of Vietnamese noodle soups that I can’t begin to list them all. Phở is a spaghetti thickness and is a basic cornerstone to a Vietnamese diet. It is usually served vegetarian, beef, pork, or chicken and has bean sprouts, mint, chilies, garlic, and other green vegetables. The northern Phở was my favorite and is a clear broth, whereas the southern Phở is combined with more flavored sauces and has a yellowish dark broth.
Bánh mì – is the Vietnamese spin on the traditional French baguette. They stuff some veggies, chili sauce, pork buns, fried fish cakes, or anything else at the sandwich stand into the baguette, including some mystery sauces. It makes for the perfect lunch! I even had one in Hanoi with pate. It was an absolutely fantastic mix of spices, meats and veggies.
Seafood Banh Xeo
Bánh xèo – was a favorite must-eat in Nha Trang. The meaning of it is “sizzling pancake” and what it is, is an open-faced or folded over (omelet style) pancake with fish (anything from octopus to shrimp), pork, or chicken (which may contain any sort of vegetables and even quail eggs). I ate the pizza sized open-faced version as well as the miniature omelet-looking version. I ate the meat and I ate the fish. I’d say, since I was in a seaside town, the fish was the best. The pancake batter is made from rice flour, turmeric, and coconut milk, is served with a heaping side of green leafs, shredded carrots, sauce, and thin leafs of rice paper for rolling it all up into one delicious spring roll.  Nomnomnom.
Cahn – the generic and basic umbrella term for soups in the south of Vietnam.
Banh Chung / Banh Tet – banana-leaf wrapped rice cakes, mostly eaten during lunar new year, and the holiday is in the next month!
Rau muong – the Vietnamese name for Morning Glory/Water Spinach. Its poisonous unless cooked, but once steamed or sautéed with loads of garlic, or thrown in almost any soup or noodle dish, it is absolutely the most delicious green vegetable the Vietnamese use.
Cao lầu – a thick noodle dish mixed with salad and pork. It’s a dish unique to Hoi An.
Ca Phe (Coffee) – It’s regular coffee, but if you ever have been or go to Vietnam you will notice that they poor a thick syrup (the coffee) and combine it with hot or cold water to your preference. No milk either, if you want milk then you will have to make due with the sweet milk (condensed milk). I find that it makes the dark coffee maintain its strength while adding a slight tint and sweetness. There is also egg coffee in Hanoi, which is a mixture of sweet condensed milk and egg poured into coffee. Makes for a foamy deliciousness. The Vietnamese latte I would say.
Luk Lak – basically, it is beef stir fry with a combination of coriander, morning glory, basil, and loads of garlic.
Muscles – cooked on the street over a grill and topped with roasted peanuts and parsley
Sticky Rice with Ice Cream – prepared with any kind of ice cream, but traditionally it is sticky rice with a little bit of milk, coconut ice cream, coconut shavings, and roasted peanuts.
Dragonfruit – not an authentic dish or anything like that, but definitely a delicious white version of dragon fruit, juicy and sweet – the Vietnamese watermelon.
Coconut – the perfect snack, fiber, and rejuvenated quencher. On the streets there are always coconuts being hammered open with machetes for only 10,000VND. Drink up the half-liter or more to quench your thirst, and then have the seller cut it in half to scoop out the fruit inside. The greener the better.


Which leads me to the point that, in Vietnam you MUST EAT LOCAL FOOD and street food. I had locals take me to where the best street food could be found - particularly in Hanoi, Saigon, and Nha Trang. When I first arrived, Craig had already been all over Hanoi, and so he took me to all of the best and the cheapest eats in town over the span of 7 days. After that, I would never spend more than 35,000VND ($1.6) on a filling street meal. Also, notice in the photo the seating at the local street food restaurants. I had the hardest time explaining to my Vietnamese friend that, where I come from, these chairs are only for small children. 



BBQ... rat?
The only time I made a mistake was in Hanoi when I ventured to the BBQ street food on my first night in the country. The first few days in a country is always rest-time, get-my-bearings-time – so I had not yet fully understood the way things are done in Vietnam at that point. For BBQ street food everyone has their own little burner in front of them, and cooking my own food seemed like the best bet to start-off testing whether the street food would be doable or not. I believe it is only a problem in Hanoi, but sometimes you order beef BBQ on the street and they do not bring you beef. I ate rat the first night that I ate street food in Hanoi. The flavor was good, but too chewy to swallow, it registered with me that I was eating rat when I noticed the meats were chopped up in calamari shaped Os, and it was way too chooey to be beef. Os… like around the neck of a rat. So DO NOT eat BBQ, unless it is vegetarian, but also do not let that deter you from the fantastic and cheap street foods elsewhere.

The most expensive and interesting thing I did in Hanoi was go on an overnight trip to Ha Long Bay. From this I learned, DO take a day tour of Ha Long Bay, but DO NOT book a cheap overnight tour. I was in Ha Long Bay during the cold season, and so at night I bundled up in my winter clothes and silk liner in order to keep warm on a boat that did not contain heat, did have rats, and was overall not enjoyable or comfortable to be on. The day tour, however, was perfect and I was able to see a large bit of the UNESCO World Heritage Site. At night our boat rafted to another boat, and I snuck off in the dark to drink and dance with the excitement next door while the workers on our boat began to set up their bed cots in the lounge area. Springing for a more expensive overnight or not doing the overnight at all is all that would have made it better. I never want to change bedrooms because there is a nest of rat shit underneath my pillow. If that never happens to me again I will be overjoyed. The other option would have been to sleep for several nights on Cat Ba Island and enjoy biking around the National Park there. I just didn’t have the time to spare.

After I picked up my Indian Visa in Hanoi, the next thing I did was book an overnight train to Dong Hoi, blindly following some advice of an American girl I met who informed me to go there to visit the national park. Dong Hoi is is a seaside town, an hour away from Phong Nha National Park. It was a quiet one bar town. I enjoyed the serenity and took the time to relax, workout, write and read. From there, I traveled to Phong Nha National Park where I met a group of English guys on my tour. We explored Paradise Cave and had a few good laughs while walking through the world’s second largest dry cave. Then I went off to Dark Cave on my own, where I joined a group of two Frenchmen for our tour. After putting on my helmet light, swimsuit, life vest, and wrapping my waterproof camera in plastic bags, I zip-lined from a tower down to the entrance of the cave. As opposed to the Paradise Cave, and the caves in Ha Long Bay, there were no fancy light fixtures. There was no nothing. It was a Dark Cave. We went in, walking barefoot on stones and rocks, through warm pools of water until we had to turn on our helmet lights as we reached an entrance leading deeper into the cave. At the entrance I saw a spider the size of a softball running away from us down the mud-lined corridor we were about to walk down. I felt like Ron from Harry Potter when he goes into the Forbidden Forrest following an unusually giant spider. “We have to go in there?” I decided, in my head, that saying my fear out loud might just attract more spiders to me, so I said nothing and continued onward as if I was fearless. The walls were lined with mud. The floor sunk in up to my knees. Everything around me was squishy and dirty. Nevertheless we trekked through until we entered an opening where a giant natural mud bath waited. I jumped in soaking myself all around in thick goopy mud, and had trouble keeping my legs from not floating to the top. Apparently mud baths create buoyancy. After a good long soak, we exited the cave, dipping in the fresh water to wash off before kayaking back to our starting point. I would certainly do it again. Perhaps with friends, perhaps in warmer weather, and perhaps taking my own motorbike to the starting point in order to save money on the tour.

When I arrived back in Dong Hoi I was determined to replace my lost waterbottle so that I could purify my own water and save money. Waterbottles in Vietnam, are not really a thing, which I learned after 4 hours of looking. I saw the entire city of Dong Hoi on my hunt for a new canteen. Eventually I found what I was looking for, and in my journey met a girl my age who was teaching English at a local foreign language learning center above the market where I bought my water bottle. She invited me to come and speak with her students. I noticed her English was not very good. I learned in China that it is best to be taught by native speakers, otherwise there is always something that doesn’t get passed down that should, or something that does get passed down that shouldn’t as far as lingual habits go. I went to the class and spoke with the teacher and the students for an hour or so, asking them questions to answer in English, and answering their questions about traveling or American culture. It was a fantastic spontaneous gift from God to meet these amazing women. They were all about my age and were excited to get to know me, just as much as I was excited to meet them and be welcomed so warmly.



The next day I left for Hue. That was an adventure in and of itself. The minivan (not bus) took us 7 hours to do a 4 hour journey, and then they dropped me off in the middle of no where with my two bags so that I traveled on a motorbike with two bags and three people. It was so fun! I love absolutely loved the adventure and ridiculousness of it all. 


The common debate among travelers and backpackers is, since Hue, Da Nang, and Hoi An are relatively close in distance (within 4 hours), which cities does one with limited time choose to visit? Firstly, there is not one city that I’ve been to that was not worth visiting, so that is just a silly question to begin with. Secondly it’s about the experience and personal interest. I liked Hue because it had religious sites and I met a lot of really sweet locals when I went out dancing. They welcomed me with open arms and kept trying to feed me drinks. They were so excited to take pictures with me and high five me. I was able to see everything in the city in 24 hours, with only one overnight. I might have stayed for a second overnight and gone through a bit slower, but I was happy to arrive in Hoi An which I loved even more! Thanks to the party-nature of my hostel in Hue I met a group of fun guys from Germany, Australia, New Zealand and England. I made particular friends with an Aussie named Murray who rented a motorbike with me to tour the city, and later traveled with me to Hoi An and Nha Trang as well. Hoi An was perfect for me because it was a good place for running along the river, a great place for shopping (its known for its custom tailors), it had delicious authentic food like Cua Lua, and my hostel offered a cheap day trip to My Son UNESCO WORLD HERITAGE SITE for only $8. On the second day at the Sunflower Hotel there I bumped into a Dutch friend, Esther, whom I had met earlier in my trip. She’s funny and open so I enjoyed talking with her, and together we shopped, had dresses and shirts custom made, and enjoyed playing cards and chatting before deciding to meet again later in our journey. I only drove through Da Nang and it was a big city like any other, beach, parties, expensive. I would go there if that’s what I wanted out of my experience, but over all Hue and Hoi An were a must do.

Maybe you get the gist by now, but it was really terribly easy to meet people, fellow travelers, or expats in Vietnam.  People often buy open-bus tickets that allow them to map-out their route and purchase all of the buses they would need for one lump sum to be used within a month. To go one step further, most of these people stop in the same cities, and stay at the same cheap but well-rated hostels. I did not do the open bus thing. I found that the reviews of most tour companies were not good, and so I didn’t want to be stuck taking the same company all over the country if I wasn’t sure if I would be comfortable and happy with it. I have taken overnight buses, and I will again this evening as a matter of fact. It’s similar to sleeping in a lounge chair with air conditioning. I enjoyed it, and slept like a baby the last time, but when Murray traveled with me to Hoi An he had to put his feet over the top of the end of the bed because it is not a bed made for people taller than me. 5’5”. It served to be uncomfortable for him. When it came to the long overnight journeys – 10+ hours from Hanoi to Dong Hoi or Hoi An to Nha Trang, I opted for purchasing a train ticket. It was double, sometimes triple the cost of the bus, but completely worth it to have my own bed, an accessible bathroom, and even an outlet and a nightlight. It was a worthwhile investment, and I would say that it is a DO for taking an overnight train.

“Expense” is also relative in Vietnam. Being in a place where I could get away with spending $2-5 on necessities began to make things like $25-$40 tours, bus and train rides seem extremely expensive. I don’t skimp, but Vietnam has made me more of a cheapskate then I have ever been. You know it’s the truth when I only allow myself the occasional splurge for a $5 dinner.

It felt like gold when I purchased a tour to the UNESCO World Heritage Site in My Son for only $8. It was a perfect must do as far as cheap and enjoyable tours goes. The ruins were fantastic to see. They were mysteriously erected without any water, and have remained for thousands of years. Some even have Sanskrit descriptions and messages. All-in-all I think you’re beginning to understand that there’s not much that is not amazing about Vietnam.

Although I didn’t experience it too often, money can create an interesting and sometimes less-than-desirable dynamic between locals and tourists. The nature of generosity in Vietnam is very much according to money in the north, and in the south it becomes more about kindness.. I have learned the hard way on a few separate occasions all over the world, that if a price isn’t established first then a ridiculous price will be established after, and you will not have any say. However, the Vietnamese are also very friendly. The more south I’ve gone the friendlier they’ve become, and so the more south I’ve traveled the less inclined I am to bargain, and the more frequently people have given me things for free out of the kindness of their hearts. I have learned though, DO NOT let locals give things to you unless it’s abundantly clear that it is free or a price has been established beforehand.

Money in Vietnam is a mixed bag. The price might be all about the location you are buying within in the city, or it might be a wealthier city altogether, or there is a local side of town and a tourist side of town, or everything is cheap, or everything is expensive. Aside from local food, there is no consistency throughout the country for what things cost, and in the north it was my experience that if a Vietnamese person were going to receive money from you then they would be extraordinarily kind and courteous. However, the second I would decide that I wasn’t going to spend money the kindness evaporated, and sometimes the it felt like the local would either cry or punch me. There isn’t really a strong and clear-cut sense of how to properly do business in the north in order to build cliental and create consistent revenue. Outside of Hanoi, and pretty much in the rest of the country, most of the Vietnamese have been friendly to me for the sake of friendliness, but being up front about money has been really important in my experience here.

It was for this reason that I chose to spend a week at the beach in Nha Trang, and skip the popular windsurfing town of Mui Nei. I wanted to be around lovely weather and lovely people. Definitely Do visit Nha Trang. If not for the beach, the surf, and the sand, then certainly for the backpacking camaraderie and friendly locals. I stayed at a hostel called the Mojzo Inn, and although the hostel itself was nothing special, I became good friends with the kind staff there. One of the girls, Gem, took me and another Dutch friend of mine, Vincent, on a local food tour of the city.

We road motorbikes across town to the local side where we ate three courses of authentic foods all for about $3. The seafood was amazing. MUST DO. It was totally affordable for only $10 and I enjoyed every second of it. Vincent and I always explored the local spa where we could use heated or cooled pools, mud baths, and mineral water baths for only $7 for the day.
During one of my days in Nha Trang I took a tour with Vincent and Esther, who met up with me again. We did the Funky Monkey tour for snorkeling, sun-tanning, and a delicious seafood spread of local eats. The tour made for a perfect day full of miracles and goodness.

When I left Nha Trang I was sad to go. Luckily, however, after driving through the mountains northward to Da Lat, I bumped into a group of Irish fellas that I had met a few days earlier. Da Lat was a crazy experience overall. I stayed at a place called Mr. Peace’s hostel, and Mr. Peace himself is a dirty mouthed, sex crazed, tiny little 25 year-old with a baby and a wife who runs the hostel with him. The dirty words I heard come out of this guy’s mouth in English made my jaw drop. Vietnamese are typically conservative people. I mean, his hostel is in a town where everyone wears long sleeves and long pants even though it’s terribly hot out during the day. Of course I’m sarcastic, and naturally a ball-buster, so Mr. Peace and I immediately created an insultingly loving tit-for-tat way of communicating. Watching him get drunk and dance to rock music at the bar that the group of us went to made me feel like I had met the Vietnamese Mick Jagger.

On my second day in Da Lat the Irish fellas, James, Michael, Peter, and Joe, along with Andrew, and some Kiwis Lilly and Jess, and I went on a canyoning tour. An ABSOLUTE MUST DO. It was maybe the best tour, and best day experience I have had in all of Vietnam. The company was outstanding, and it would have been hard to not have a good time with them, but the added bonus of this adrenaline adventure made it the perfect day. At Datanla Waterfalls we apsailed down cliffs of 18m (59ft) and 17m (55ft), a waterfall of 25m (82ft), cliff jumped 11m (36ft), body surfed over the river rapids, enjoyed a picnic, and free beer at the end. It was an absolutely amazing experience for me to do this. I had always been afraid of heights. But rather than say “I can’t” I try to say, “can I go first?” I apsailed through thick gushing waves of water down a 25m waterfall – completely trusting in my strength and the taught of the line – and eventually free falling 4m (13ft) back first into the water below. The group of us stayed together for the few nights that I was in Da Lat, and while Andrew, the Kiwis, the Irish and I moved on to Saigon.


Saigon is a city full of motorbikes, where it is dangerous to cross the road. The market was amazing, and of course I already mentioned how moving the exhibits and war remnants were deeply moving. Now I will begin my journey from Saigon to Cambodia and Laos with a group of fantastic Swiss-French people I met in Nha Trang. 

The journey continues.

Vietnam, I absolutely love you… but adventure is out there!!

Friday, January 9, 2015

A Peak Into Communist China

China wasn't at all what I imagined it would be. I imagined people eating fried bugs, and frogs, fish pedicures, people being afraid of the police, no sign of any holiday spirit, and I was prepared to be a defensive victim at every turn. Defensive of my rights - my liberty that I am so used to having.

Well, I've learned that it takes a lot of effort to peak into the true life of Communist China. I stayed in or around Beijing, China for nearly 3 weeks. Granted, it was a small window of the country - with more time and money I might have traveled to Hangzou, Shanghai, Guangzhou, Hong Kong, Chengdu, and maybe a few other hoppin locations that I've have yet to hear about. Instead I spent 3 weeks between suburban Beijing in Hebei Province, and the center of Beijing. I'm glad that I stayed put getting to know my environment and spending time with my God sister, and I certainly learned a lot from the experience.

Of course, what I have to say about life in China and communism is based on my limited experience - 3 weeks in one city is not saying too much. As I observed, some Chinese (particularly those who haven't traveled beyond China) don't even realize that they are living in a country so strict, and so limiting compared to the rest of the world. Whereas others feel the full effects of the adverse ways of life. Something crucial that I learned (having never really studied China in my free time) was that there is no judicial system in place. No judges. No lawyers. No trials. If a rule is broken, the person goes to prison, work camp (the same as that which I have been taught about during World War II in Nazi Germany), or they are killed. No questions asked. If they are lucky, their entire family will not face the same punishment. As I understand it, that sort of luck is uncommon.

I never felt unsafe in China. In fact, traveling around, accessibility of supermarkets, taxis, public transportation, and street markets, was familiar to me as if I were in a Chinese version of New York City. It was the most Western-feeling place that I had been in over a month. There were paved roads - wide ones - and even sidewalks with street lights. I was grateful to be staying with my godsister. We enjoyed the holidays together, and learned together. She taught me many of the dos and don'ts and helped guide my way. After one day in China, there was no question about it, having a guide is an enormous benefit. No one speaks English. No one. Hardly anything is written in English. Hardly anything. There's no doubt that I would have found my way (particularly with the skillful communication of body language and hand gestures) but it might have taken a lot of misdirection first. In a country where the language is routed in Latin, Greek, or Germanic, I would have been able to figure it out - but Chinese may as well be a bunch of clicks and ticks or cat scratches on a wood panel. There is no way to just "figure it out."

I never had a desire to come to China before. Having studied so thoroughly the effects of communism in European history, it was my goal to stay as far away from communism as possible. I didn't even want to be a tourist supporting their economic growth - to me its a slap in the face to the people who remain oppressed no matter what the government gains. I came to spend the holidays with my godsister, and it was worth it to see her, get to know her better, and learn about her life in China. However, after several days in Beijing, and getting to know many different Chinese locals, expats, and travelers, I can say that I wish I had seen more of China, met more people, had even more experiences. I would certainly consider going back - maybe after learning some basic Chinese.

Although my opinion of communism is fairly low, that's not to say that I'm ignorant to how America functions as a government as well. They do things in secret. They kill innocent people. They fuel the fires of oppression in many ways. Sometimes I am happy to be an uninvolved citizen, and sometimes I feel the need to stand up for goodness and fairness. However, Americans still have a million freedoms that the Chinese don't, straight down to how schools are run, how people live in their homes, how much money is spent on pleasures, what you should or shouldn't freely say, etc. In America, I never questioned whether I could have a hot shower every day, or how publically I could celebrate my holidays or my religion. American government might do some sleazy stuff, but we Americans still receive a great deal in our lives.

No matter how I feel about the government and communism, the people are truly authentic here, and many of them are deeply oppressed. They are oppressed in every way that I imagine. I have never been so grateful for my liberties, opportunities, and overall spoiledness that comes with being American.

In China the people are friendly, but not helpful. They give their opinions, but not loudly. Helping each other is not encouraged by the government. There is no law after all. If a fight breaks out, people will watch, maybe use words to calm the situation, or just walk by. This behavior would make them a bystander in the United States, it might be deemed selfish and cowardly. But what if a simple spontaneous decision to be brave over an everyday problem means death or life in a prison? I would be a lot more likely to think first, act later, or never - depending. Getting involved in other peoples business means that you are subject to the same suffering or benefits as that person. Most people would rather not take the chances of getting in trouble.

There are many beautiful and authentic things about China. As I'm sure you can imagine that the government doesn't entirely define you or your life, so it is the same in China. It has much to offer the world and it treats whiter skinned foreigners, like myself, like gold. China wants a good worldly reputation, so tourists are treated very well. I've even heard of white people being paid to be in promotional videos and photos for money. Most Chinese are not so lucky to have a large apartment, with internet, a hot shower, and heating system. The students at the local University have to wait in line - in the cold, or any other season - to use the showers, and they have to pay. They have to pay money that some people don't even have.

Beijing to me, is fascinating. It's bigger and far more spread out than New York City. The foods are different than anything I have ever seen. Some are in thick sweet sauces, just like American Chinese food, there are a thousand different things that I have seen pre-packaged (that looks slimy and undesirable). The street food is excessive, delicious, and as amazing as an endless food court, there are lots of noodles and rice, and yummy Hot Pot. In case you didn't know, because I didn't, Hot Pot is a soup based fondue. It was my first meal in China. My godsister and I went to a local restaurant, ordered vegetables and thinly sliced meats, and cooked them in the soup broth, then removed them after cooking and feasted. It appears as though the people in China always eat family style, and always order excessively at restaurants. One order per person is just a silly idea, even though (when the food does come out) it is a platter-full of eats. Thank God "take-away" is a norm in this country.

The subways are another adventure. After navigating through at least 10 different subway systems in major cities throughout Europe and America, I feel I am pretty accustomed to how they typically work. After all, they are all fairly similar. Beijing's subway was no different. If anything, it was more organized and higher security than any subway I had ever been on.

I've been told by many different people that helping each other is not cultural in China, just as shoving is not discourteous. On the subways people shove into, past, and even through each other like hypnotized cattle. During rush hour, cramming into a car requires effort, moving towards the door to get ready to exit requires effort, and holding on for dear life so as not to be swept out of the train by the foot traffic can even be dangerous! The swarms of people shoving and moving like a mob of fish reminded me of the abused horses I saw while trekking in Nepal. The horses would push right past whoever was in their path, if they didn't do what they were supposed to they would be whipped, so my only option was to get the hell out of their way! I have my own methods on the train during times when its full. I tuck my arms in, clip my backpack tightly, and get away from the door if it's not my stop to get off.

Everything I became accustomed to doing in NYC exists in a Chinese version here - the subway, the food, the shopping, the schools, the street food, the tourists spots, and the different burroughs of the city.

People here are the same as the average person in New York. They behave (obey the law), do as their told, go to work, and keep to themselves so there are no problems. One of the major differences is that people do not break the law nearly as often. There is no pick pocketing. No fighting (or far less). People don't commit crimes - at least not serious ones. If they do, they may as well be committing themselves to a brutal prison system, and maybe take their family along with them. Luckily, theft is not an issue on the busy subways - I mean, do you think theft would be an issue if the possible punishment is death or life in prison for you and your entire family? I didn't think so. The person who breaks the law in China is selfish, desperate, or both.

Communism has found a way to keep order through fear, and if people here stay in order then they can also have a false sense of freedom. Children and University students have no freedom. Every waking hour they are practicing something, or studying something, and the living conditions can be terrible for anybody.
The simple understanding of how college students are selected, treated, and what jobs they receive is a perfect example of lack of liberty that I would never stand for in my own life. Luckily, I have a choice.
A high school student is required to take a college entrance exam that will essentially determine the course of their entire life. The exam determines which University they will attend, whether it will be a Chinese University, what they will study, and what their post graduate profession will be. There is no choice otherwise. You can imagine, that doing well in school - cheating - is very common. Everyone cheats, not just on the entrance exam but throughout college. Failure is not an option because a small misstep could change the course or life.

Read more from the New York Times:
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/01/world/asia/burden-of-chinas-college-entrance-test-sets-off-wide-debate.html?pagewanted=all&_r=0

There are ways to be defiant to some extent. In Beijing there were Christmas lights, cardboard cutouts of Santa's face on windows, and Christmas trees in many plazas. Christianity here is allowed by the communist run churches, but celebrating a holiday that is not a government holiday so openly, is looked down upon by the government. I except that a crack-down will happen after such a widely expressive Christmas season in the city. The Christmas tree lights were beautiful lining some of the streets in different districts. Beforehand, I imagined that everything would be bare - there would be no holiday spirit, everything would be black and white with no colorful expression. I was pleasantly surprised to find that there was holiday cheer in the air, and some version of Christmas songs playing in many of the supermarkets I went into. I learned that some locals don't like the communist run Christian churches. For example, on July 1st, which is a national holiday, the churches say all of the same prayers as usual, but rather than praising Jesus, they praise the communist party. That is something I would refuse to do. The people who are like me have secret churches, underground, in basements, or their friends houses. They have services, and exercise their human rights to believe in and praise whoever they want.

If I were Chinese, I just assume practice my religion in private. I wouldn't want to go to a communist-run church, but I also wouldn't feel the need to risk my life by going to a secret church. My body is the temple after all.

To dig deeper on all of the human rights, religious rights, and freedom of speech issues, I had an interesting conversation with a few different local people concerning my work as a social worker. Social workers don't really exist in China. The homeless go to prison. The mentally ill are either killed via infanticide (most likely, since there are no official records), taken care of by their family, or arrested doing something they shouldn't and sent to a work camp. Mental illness does not exist in China. People know about it, they know the names for different illnesses (as much as any American would),  and they are kind to one another. However, there is no empathy, no trial, if a mentally ill person gets in a fight, steals, runs away from home, makes a scene of any kind, or breaks any other kind of law - thats their one strike to get out. The police know what mental illness is, but the arrested mentally ill person will either be sent home or sent to a work camp after committing a crime. There is no program, no treatment for mental illness. In Viet Nam and Thailand, there is also no treatment. No need really... the "undocumented" rates of infanticide in these parts of the world would be probably be disturbing. Other than a limping walk (most likely from old age), I have not seen one person with any kind of physical disability. I am currently in the greater city area of Beijing where the population is upwards of 20 million (verses NYC's 8.4 million in 2013). I have seen two black people, and no disabled people in the course of 18 days.

Mental illness sufferers get locked in cages. Political prisoners get sent to mental institutions. 
http://www.cnn.com/2014/05/06/world/asia/china-mental-health/
According to an American newspaper:
  1. "Statistics released by China's National Center for Mental Health showed that as of the year of 2009, 100 million Chinese suffered from mental health problems with more than 160 million citizens afflicted with serious mental illnesses such as schizophrenia and paranoid psychosis." http://www.theatlantic.com/china/archive/2013/07/unable-to-cope-chinas-inadequate-care-of-the-mentally-ill/278170/
But what is the treatment? How are they cared for? It's all lacking. The entire institution and approach to mental illness is enough to make someone in the helping profession nauseous. The conversation where I first began to learn all of this before researching on my own, it made me feel sad and sick when I was told the facts out loud.

You might be wondering, as I would be if I were you, how I was able to even find this information while in China. Facebook, instagram, gmail, international new sites, etc - are all blocked or banned in China. Luckily, I paid for a VPN a few months ago so that I could occasionally watch American movies on the internet, and even more lucky is that the VPN works phenomenally while in China. If I were in China without a VPN than all of this information would be utterly inaccessible. 

It's such a simple thing, being able to research news information, that it never occurred to me as something I should be grateful for being able to do! Grateful for a computer, yeah because many people can't afford one. Grateful for internet, yeah because some people don't lived in a developed world where internet is accessible. But, for the people who have computers, and internet, I never thought about being grateful for what I can access with it.
My experience in China has made me all-the-more grateful for the life I have back in the United States. For example, the air in China can have extremely high pollution on some days, and on others (particularly after a good windy day) have none. I never really understood why I've seen Chinese people wearing face masks in public, but now I welcome it for myself simply so that my head is clear breathing in clean air. Some days, when the pollution was bad, I didn't feel well. On an average pollution day, I could feel the burning in my nose like I might have a nose bleed at any second. I couldn't imagine not being able to exercise outside regularly. It's such a simple thing to think about.

China made me grateful for so many simple things, straight down to the air that I breathe, private stalls in the women's bathroom, going to church, exercising outside, speaking English, access to Google, and on and on it goes. Being reminded to be grateful for all of these things which I have back in the United States did not make me less grateful for the amazing experience of China. Whatever I lost, I gained something else tenfold through my experiences.. Having less just leaves opportunity for gaining more - both in spirit and character. I appreciate all that I was able to learn just by seeing how the other half (of the world) lives.

It's obvious that I didn't have many positive thing to say about communism, but that doesn't necessarily speak to my personal experience in China either. At first, my deeply rooted empathy for humanity made it all the more difficult to have any involvement with such negative and harmful environments as communism provides. However, while in China I experienced all kinds of humanity on an interpersonal, and micro scale. I watched Chinese people help each other, and on several occasions people helped me find my way, understand new information, even simple things like find the right kind of lotion in a corner store. Despite the limited communication, I had a fantastic one-on-one experience of Chinese people. I watched couples in love and saw the defiance in it. Rather than follow the old traditions of marrying for status, the young Chinese generation is moving towards marrying for love, and being honest with their partner. I met several couples, and many Chinese travelers, who spoke English, and shared with me their experiences, their ups and downs, and their private opinions about what life is like for them.

I've known many Chinese Americans throughout my life. Particularly after attending school at NYU, I felt as though there was a Chinese takeover coming to the States. Chinatown just keeps growing and growing - Little Italy is almost non-existent anymore. I never fully understood the profound nature of their culture, the challenge of the language, or the importance of upholding an essence of their way of life. There's a Chinatown in countless major cities in the U.S. and I think now I can at least begin to understand why. What sets the Chinese apart from other cultural Americans? I imagine that taking the beautiful Chinese culture in China, and giving the people freedom and liberty too, can do a whole lot for their way of life. It's a transformation. A loud, exciting, loving, hospitable, and respectful culture suddenly has permission to become louder, friendlier, and more helpful just because their fears of government are taken away. They have the freedom to share themselves with others, which probably makes it even more important to them than the average American who never had that sort of  strictness, fear, and struggle present in their immediate lineage. Its the same as a culture coming from war, except for the battle is within themselves - every day they must have poise and obedience. Every day they must walk the line and not stagger.

The Chinese people are truly magical, interesting, and fantastic to learn from.

I am so grateful that, despite my anticipation entering into the country, I was able to leave loving the  people and therefore slowly but surely falling in love with their authentic ways of life.